OT- a Good Article

Hi Folks, below is a good article I found that can apply to work,
fishing, and life in general. Hope you enjoy it! Craig



Make Failure a Friend: How to Turn Your Setbacks Into Success


John C. Maxwell
The Injoy Group


What separates the achievers from the also-rans? The ability to accept
failure and learn from it. Failing forward is the only way to take
advantage of new opportunities for success. My 30 years of training
people to be high achievers has shown me that anyone can learn to fail
forward...

Don't take all the blame for failure. No one fails simply because
he/she isn't "good enough." Fight the urge to assume all the blame --
that is crushing.

Instead: Think through all the reasons for the failure, and put your
own role in proper perspective.

People who overcome failure tend to be those who don't take it
personally. They don't see themselves as failures. They see themselves
as people who have failed.

When working with clients, I always point out that every success we
enjoy is accomplished with the help of others. Then I ask, "If we must
share credit for our successes with others, why carry the whole burden
of failure on our shoulders?"

Caution: Don't let yourself off the hook too easily. Always ask
yourself what you might have done to increase the likelihood of
success.

Take action to reduce your fear. Once it is clear that you have failed
at something, you may be reluctant to act until you can convince
yourself that all possibility of failing again has been eliminated.

Of course, it's impossible to remove all possibility of failure -- so
you wind up in a state of paralysis.

To free yourself to take action, accept the real possibility that you
will fail again -- but also acknowledge that each failure offers a new
chance to learn and move ahead.

View failure as something that happened in the past. Recognize every
day as a new day, with new opportunities.

A sign in my office reads, Yesterday ended last night. When I come to
work after a bad day, I look at the sign just to remind myself. It
always makes me feel better.

Change yourself, and your world changes. If you keep failing in the
same area, it is likely that the problem lies with you -- and not with
the situation in which you find yourself.

Do you need to improve your skills? Did you pick the right people with
whom to work?


Only by understanding your role in the failure -- and knowing what you
must do differently next time -- can you profit from the experience.

If you're unable to answer these questions on your own, seek help.
People who first failed but later succeeded at a similar task are well
positioned to spot what you did wrong -- and to help you change to
minimize your risk of failing again.

Keep in mind: It's not what happens to you that makes the difference.
It is what happens in you.

When you succeed, look for bigger challenges. If you don't fail at
least occasionally, you're not stretching yourself. You're avoiding
failure by staying in the same safe rut.

Trap: Once you stop challenging yourself, you cease to grow.


When a client claims to be successful in all the things he/she has been
doing, I ask, "Are you doing anything new or different?" The answer to
this question is almost always "No."

Lesson: Just as you shouldn't let failure grind you down, don't let
success lull you into complacency. Don't let a string of successes
convince you that you have somehow "arrived." No one ever really
"arrives." The best we can hope for is to maintain a state of personal
growth.

Understand just how small the difference between success and failure
really is. It is human nature to perceive the gap between success and
failure as gigantic. When we fail, we often think that we are miles
from success -- just as we believe that when we succeed, we are miles
from failure.

What is the reality? The gap between success and failure is seldom very
wide.


Example: A batter who hits .320 might make $5 million a year, while one
who hits .220 might get only $500,000. All the .220 hitter must do to
increase his salary tenfold is get one more hit for each 10 at bats.

Lesson: To become as successful as you would like, consider the
possibility that all you must do is slightly increase your ratio of
success to failure.

If your success ratio is 50% right now, increasing it to 60% would
likely make an enormous difference in your life.

Make a concerted effort to learn from each failure, and you'll soon
find yourself doing more of what you do when you succeed -- and less of
what you do when you fail.